Journal
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Coming Back Home
Well, our two months in Arizona were over like a flash and we’re back in Saint Paul in the middle of a freak, record-breaking snow storm. We really enjoyed our time in Scottsdale and it wasn’t just the weather. First, I was shocked at how many people we knew in Phoenix. In addition to my parents, I have a lot of extended family who winter or live in the Phoenix area and I have now learned that many of John’s golf friends spend part of their winter there. Although we really enjoyed our time alone, there was no shortage of golf or dinner companions.
Second, I felt very relaxed there and I attribute a lot of my reduced stress to renting a house. (These millennials might be on to something.) I had no lists of things to have updated or repaired. I didn’t need to coordinate or oversee the people who did the yard work, filled the propane tank or cleaned the pool. When there was an issue with the pool or sprinkler system, it wasn’t my problem to fix. My daily chores consisted of cooking, dishes, laundry and walking the dog. The extent of my decorating was buying candles and flowers – you know, the fun stuff. It was nice to pour a cup of coffee in the morning and sit at my computer for hours working on my blog or other projects without worrying about all of the other things I should be planning, organizing or repairing.
I know buying a home in a warm weather location is our long-term plan and even though I’m excited to decorate another home and live there with all of my own things; as the person who oversees the household, I am in no rush to have another To Do list.
I must admit, I did enjoy the view of the pool from my desk in Arizona more than this view of snow from my desk in Saint Paul.
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Adult Dinner Topics
If you’re under 40, this post isn’t for you… but I guess you can read it for entertainment purposes.
To my friends and family over 40, have you noticed how dinner conversations have evolved over the years? When we were younger we discussed our jobs and our children’s activities like their current sports teams, school fundraisers and birthday parties. Now that we’re older we talk about our medical conditions, medications and retirement plans.
How many people over 40 haven’t heard at least one funny colonoscopy prep story? Like my friend who took the prep in one long drink instead of diluting it with Gatorade and consuming over two hours like the directions indicate. Not a good idea, especially when it’s a Sunday evening and she still had to drive home from the cabin for her Monday morning appointment. Or the person who used red Gatorade as the mixer – note: never eat or drink anything with red dye before a colonoscopy. You will need to reschedule and prep again!
Other fun topics include:
Annual mammograms or other tests as a result of a mammogram like ultrasounds or biopsies. After your first few mammograms it’s really no big deal to flop your breast on the imaging plate. For those of you who are younger, know that mammograms have gotten so much easier! The imaging for dense tissue is so much better now and I swear they don’t squash your breast nearly as hard as they used to when the imaging was lower quality.
Knee and hip replacements, this includes conversations comparing orthopedic surgeons and physical therapy clinics as well as offering up crutches, braces, ice packs or other medical equipment and tips that made the recovery time more bearable.
Favorite chiropractors and massage therapists, including details about the areas being worked on such as “I have chronic pain in my shoulder from that car accident when I was younger” or “my L-4 is giving me trouble again.”
Current medications or supplements (like CoQ10 for heart health and muscle aches – I never heard about this until I was over 50 but everyone older than me seems to know about it!) and foods or beverages that don’t interact well (“No Paloma for me, I’m on a statin.”)
Instead of discussing our jobs, we discuss the benefits of working remotely and our retirement plans. This includes when and where everyone is going to escape the cold winter months and the benefits of renting versus buying, driving versus flying, golf course memberships, etc.
Don’t get me wrong, old people are fun to hang out with… not only are we all well-versed on medications, body parts and diets but we have more disposable income for traveling, going to nice restaurants and drinking great cocktails. And with all of this traveling, eating out and drinking we have a lot to talk about in addition to our aches and pains.
Cheers to getting older! It’s better than the alternative. 😉
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Being a Vegetarian, Married to a Carnivore
First, I need to clarify, technically I’m a pescatarian. Many people don’t know what that means so often I’ll just say I’m vegetarian to keep things simple. In case you’re wondering, the photo below explains the difference between vegan, vegetarian and pescatarian.
I’ve never liked meat, but growing up in the Midwest I didn’t know any vegetarians and I didn’t realize not eating meat was an option. I would wash my cooked ground beef to remove all the fat and meat taste before adding seasoning. I would marinate my chicken, steak and pork or put it in some sort of sauce to disguise the taste. The idea of eating chicken skin or wings off of a bone made me gag. As I got older I just naturally ate less and less meat. When our daughter tried a 30-day vegan diet several years ago I learned A LOT about protein – how much we really need and the huge variety of protein sources. I enjoyed researching new recipes, reading labels and creating things like fresh vegetables and pasta with a cashew “cheese” sauce.
Our daughter has been vegan for a couple of years which made it even easier for me to go vegetarian. (I was the easy-going one because I would eat foods prepared with milk or cheese.) If you know us, you know we enjoy going to restaurants for great cocktails and dinner at least a couple times each week. Quickly I discovered that many vegetarian options in restaurants would be things like fettucine alfredo with broccoli or something deep fried like eggplant parmesan. Not the healthiest options, and as someone who is lactose sensitive and gets sick from deep fried foods they aren’t an option… So, I decided I would include fish in my diet when we went out to eat since most restaurants offer a simple fish dish or at the very least a shrimp cocktail and a salad.
Luckily, my husband is very easy going and will eat just about anything I make myself for dinner and he’ll just grill a chicken breast, pork chop or steak to eat on the side. On the other end of the spectrum, our son has recently invested in a Yoder Smoker Pellet Grill. Most of his meals are centered around meat and he considers most vegetables and fruit as garnishes. The upside of having such diverse diets in our family is everyone has learned how to cook.
If you’re interested in reducing the amount of meat in your diet (Meatless Mondays, perhaps?), I have a lot of meatless and vegan recipes on my Pinterest page.
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Working Long Distance Versus Vactioning
When we decided to work from Arizona for the months of February and March, I think many people were under the impression we would be on a two-month vacation. The first thing John and I did in our rental home was claim our office spaces. We pulled a desk from one of the bedrooms into a nook in the kitchen for me and we set up the printer and John’s multiple computer screens, keyboard and laptops in the casual dining room. I will admit working with a view of a pool and palm trees is a lovely change of scenery; but with this new blog and all of the projects I kept putting off while we were getting ready to leave Saint Paul, I’m logging more computer time than I ever did at home.
We have gotten into a nice routine during the week; whoever is up first in the morning, puts on a pot of coffee before sitting down to work. Then, John and I will often work for hours without saying more than a few words to each other. Our first full week alone in our rental house, we found ourselves working 10+ hour days and the week flew by. On the second week, we realized if we weren’t careful our two months in Scottsdale would be over and we wouldn’t have done anything fun together except when we had company in town. So, we decided to set aside time at least twice during the week to do something fun – sometimes we go on a hike or a long walk through the neighborhood with Sadie, other times we just go exploring or out for happy hour in a new part of town. Our first month in Arizona has already ended and we have a lot of company in March so I feel like we’ll be loading the car up for the trip back home before we know it.
AND, it’s also the time to find a home to rent for February and March 2019! Our plans right now are to rent in the Florida gulf area. Now that we’ve gotten a feel for “living” in the desert, we need to give equal time to the beach. I’m truly shocked at some of the homes for rent on VRBO. Of course, there are many beautiful homes, but I’m talking about the ones that are over decorated, incredibly outdated or painted crazy neon colors. And, they are still asking premium prices because of their location. Every time I start looking on VRBO, I say, “John we should buy and rent out houses in this area.” Easier said than done, but seriously… if you’re going to rent out your house, please at least clean out the closets and wash the dirty dishes before you take photos!
Any tips on where to stay or things to do on the Florida gulf side?
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How to Choose a Vacation Rental and Make It Feel Like Home
When we decided to head South and work remotely for two months during the winter, we thought about what we wanted in a rental; a fenced backyard where our dog could roam, a nice kitchen where we could cook healthy meals, a bedroom or two for guests, a place for each of us to work on our computers, and a patio with a heated pool and grill where we could hang out and entertain.
My favorite sites for rentals are Vacation Rentals by Owner (vrbo.com) and AirBNB. Also, enter the name of the place you are visiting with the words “vacation rentals” for local rental companies. You can typically enter your criteria, for example: single family home, pet friendly, neighborhood, pool and the number of bedrooms and bathrooms. For the best selection, start looking early. (Since requiring a pet-friendly rental narrowed our choices dramatically, we booked our rental 12 months before our trip. Bonus: The cost of our rental increased before our stay, but we were locked in at last year’s price.) Confirm the location, read the amenities and reviews, study the photos, read the bio of the owner and then tag your favorite properties. I quickly ruled out homes that were over decorated with knick-knacks, personal photos, too much furniture, etc. because that’s not my style and I don’t want to feel like I’m living in someone else’s house. I prefer rentals with a minimalistic decor where I can add my own touches with candles, throw blankets, flowers, plants, etc.
The next step is to message with the owner. For example, even though I only saw homes with pools I couldn’t always tell if they were heated or if there was an additional charge for heating the pool. This required email exchanges with several properties and quickly narrowed our choices. Also, some properties will give you a discount for an extended stay. It doesn’t hurt to ask.
Some vacation rentals are investment properties that are professionally managed and completely cleaned out after each renter, while others are vacation homes for the owner. You can typically figure out which one your rental is by reading the owner’s bio. If it’s a vacation home for the owner there may be items left behind in the cupboards, closets, etc. Since the house we rented was an owner’s vacation home, we planned to spend the first afternoon cleaning and rearranging cupboards and closets to fit our needs for the next two months. As my husband and Dad unloaded the vehicle, my Mom and I pulled out the cleaning supplies and started scrubbing down the kitchen. My Mom pulled everything out of the cupboards and drawers. I put pantry items that were left-over from the owner (or other guests) that we didn’t need or want, in an empty box and tucked it away in a back closet until the day we moved out. Then I put the dishes, glasses, cookware, etc. I planned to use regularly in easy to reach cupboards. I wiped down the inside of the fridge and dumped the old ice in the ice-maker. Once the kitchen was clean, we were ready to make a grocery run.
Here are some of my tips for making a rental feel like home:
- Scents – I always travel with candles and room sprays, even to resorts and hotels. Since we were staying for two months, I also purchased some diffusers.
- Throw blankets – if you have room and it’s important to you, bring your own. If not, I usually gather up the blankets I like and throw them in the washer.
- Bed pillow – most people have a pillow preference. If you can’t bring your own pillow, check all the guest rooms until you find a pillow you like and switch them out.
- Knives & a cutting board – I haven’t found a rental that has good, sharp knives. Since I like to cook, having good knives is important to me. A paring knife and a chef’s knife should get you through the basics.
- Kitchen essentials – everyone has kitchen tools they use on a regular basis. A few things necessary for me are a good blender, YETIs, an assortment of spices, a simple citrus juicer, an ice cube tray (to make lemon juice ice cubes for my morning hot water), a cocktail shaker and shot glass. Check the list of amenities in your rental before packing (or touch base with the owner) to see if the items you want are already there.
- Hangers – if you usually need to request extra hangers when you stay at a hotel, odds are there won’t be enough hangers in your rental. If you don’t have room to bring hangers, check the dollar store once you arrive at your destination.
- Laundry basket – not only is a laundry basket great for transporting items, it’s nice to have a basket in your closet for collecting dirty laundry.
- Beach / pool towels – many rentals have old bath towels or cheap beach towels for using at the pool. If a big fluffy towel is important to you, bring your own or plan to purchase some at your destination.
- Personal bathroom products – most rentals do not supply shampoo, conditioner, body wash, etc. so bring your own. I also like to bring hotel samples that I’ve collected during our travels for the guest bathroom in case our guests don’t bring any.
- Cleaning supplies – most rentals have basic cleaning supplies, laundry detergent, dish soap, etc. If you have strong brand preferences, plan to purchase your own once you arrive.
Now that your rental is starting to feel comfortable; it’s time to invite guests and have fun.
If you have any tips for selecting a vacation rental or how to make it feel like home, please share in the comments below.
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Traveling with a Pet
When we decided to live in Scottsdale, Arizona for two months this winter we knew we wanted to drive so we would have our own vehicle, we could bring more of our own things and we could bring our Maltese / Shih Tzu, Sadie. Sadie has only traveled with us to visit family so traveling long distance with her was going to be a new experience.
We decided that we would take five days to drive the 1,814 miles from Saint Paul, MN to Arizona. As soon as we had our route mapped out, I started searching for pet friendly hotels in each of our stops. I utilized Yelp and TripAdvisor to find the pet friendly hotels and then read reviews to finalize where we would be staying. I found out that most of the pet friendly hotels have specific rooms set aside for guests with pets so we had to book in advance to ensure we had one of those rooms. If you aren’t already aware, there is typically a pet fee of $50 / night.
At our first hotel stop, we brought Sadie’s bed and travel bag with her bowls, food, treats and toys. We unpacked a little and took her for a short walk. Once she had eaten her dinner and seemed settled in the room, we thought we would try a quick trip down to the lobby bar and see how she would handle being alone in a strange hotel room. Well, we didn’t even make it ten feet down the hall before she started frantically scratching on the door. So much for going out to dinner.
From that point on we either ordered room service or we took Sadie with us to pick up dinner to eat in our room. She was just fine being alone in the car, so we were able to go inside restaurants for lunch while we were on the road. Of course, we either parked near a window where we could watch her or one of us periodically went out to check on her.
Traveling with a pet is a little like traveling with children, all of your decisions are made around what works best for them. Luckily, we quickly adopted a routine of going for a nice walk at each stop and then having dinner and cocktails in our room.
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2018 – The Year of Change
I’ve thought about starting a blog for a while now, but I wasn’t really sure what I would write about, who would read it or, most importantly, how to do it. We have a lot of changes happening in 2018 so I thought why not give it a try. Worst case, I’ll have a nice online journal.
Two significant changes happened this January. Our 20-year-old daughter left to study in Copenhagen, Denmark for a semester and my husband and I are trying to live (and work remotely) in a warmer climate for part of the winter.
My husband and I have lived in Saint Paul, Minnesota for 26 years. For many years we’ve talked about owning a second home in the perfect warm weather location with amazing beaches (for me) and fabulous golf courses (for him); but since we haven’t found that perfect place yet, we decided to just jump in with a trial relocation for the months of February and March.
After several discussions, over many cocktails, we decided to rent a home in Scottsdale, Arizona. Many factors included: direct flights to Minneapolis / Saint Paul in case of a work crisis; my parents own a home in Mesa, Arizona; many of our friends visit Arizona during the winter; there are wonderful golf courses; and I found a great house with a heated pool – not quite a beach, but it will do for our first attempt at snow-birding.
We’ll see how these changes impact our lives long-term. Regardless, it will be an exciting year… come along for the ride.